In a recent course on decision making, teamwork, conflict, communication, all that happened which caused me were very impressed. The teacher wants to do a show about something that we later learned is called "active listening." Asks a student to tell what made the previous day. Then, as she starts talking, she ostensibly begins to look down, to play with the pen. At the end, he asks what your guinea pig has feelings as he made his narrative. The student does not know what to say, the preofesora explains that he has not been paying attention, and then goes on to explain how a person is actively listening.
I'm not talking here today of the disease of not listening, not really listen, fully understanding the positions and desentrañanado other's feelings. It is a very common virus (what you're telling a person who breaks their mental worlds most inopportune moments.) We hear without listening, we look without seeing, going at full speed, there is little real world beyond our reach. Fortunately, many people who read this blog it seems that so far have been immunized against this virus, but everybody can happen for reasonable cause.
What to me has attracted the attention of the experiment that I have told you before is that the person speaking has barely noticed the reaction of his words. And another issue is that this is less known. I speak of those people who do not observe the listeners, which are impervious to the reactions that his words may cause, do not read the sometimes transparent nonverbal language. To them, your boredom, urgency, fatigue, discomfort, annoyance or offense has no effect. Maybe it's clumsy, self-absorption myopia, insensitivity, ignorance, making them immune to the unmistakable messages they receive. It is a gift of gratitude, as well as the listening, the ability to interpret the effect that causes your audience and moderate, alter, shorten, lengthen or even eliminate the speech you're giving. Fortunately, too, many of my readers also have this gift.
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